A child’s love language can be identified through observing how they express affection to you and other loved ones. Oftentimes, how they express their love to you is how they want to be loved too! For example, a child that says “I love
you” all day and seemingly out of nowhere may be showing you that words of affirmation are their love language of choice. By utilizing the love language your child best responds to, you can make sure they’re emotionally satisfied.
Ready to decode your child’s love language? Here’s what to look for:
Physical touch: Cuddles and kisses: One of the first love languages children can express a preference over is physical touch. Most babies love nothing more than to be showered in hugs and kisses. We can often get their first smiles and laughs during this time. Extra snuggles on the couch or a high five can do the trick to reinforce a feeling of love to older children whose love language is physical touch.
Words of affirmation: Loving words or praise: Saying loving things or offering praise will be most appreciated by a child whose love language is “words of affirmation.". A special note in their lunchbox or verbal enthusiasm about a job well done can really make your little one feel special.
Acts of service: Chores without complaint: Some older children will show their affection through participation in chores or family activities. Kids whose love language is “acts of service” appreciate it when their parents do even the smallest of tasks for them: Making them a meal they’ve been craving is considered an act of love.
Gifts: Special surprises: What child doesn’t love receiving gifts? While most kids can’t wait to rip open a present on their birthday, some children feel especially loved when they receive a thoughtful gift from a parent. A small, meaningful gesture can make kids feel loved.
Quality Time: Distraction-free time together: Quality time with a parent is something that kids relish. Establishing continual connections with your children is the key to fostering strong relationships. By looking out for the signs above and identifying your child’s love language, you’ll be able to have an even deeper, more meaningful and ongoing connection with your child.